I’m just sharing you some thing that had struck me today. Man, it was a hard blow. I was really caught unaware with such words that came to me!People I’ve been dealing were so much befriending me. I just can’t believe it that words can truly make or break you. Thank God my fiancée is always there to clear my blurred mind. I’ve just got back-stabbed by someone.
Anyways, when I was younger…a lot younger, people who I’m with for a very long time know how much and about my bad temper. Yeah, very bad. But as I age, I learned to be in control of it. I still sometimes blew my top but I’m more aware of its effect. I guess, when you got someone as great as my fiancée, someone’s going to throw a bucket of cold water in your hot head hehehe!
Coping in such back stabbing issue is very difficult. You were caught off guard, you trusted them and you just let them be with their lives. But, for them, it’s not enough. They just won’t let it fly by and will get back to you. They will either make reach to you through rumors, through those sheepish smiles, text messages, emails and post. Name it, what ever means of communications, it will spread like wild fire till its near your feet burning you up.
In order for you to regain composure and get through this phase. you need to deal with it still with the utmost level of an educated person. Nevertheless, if you dance along with their tune, you’ve just sunk down to their level. Here’s what I’ve been doing for the past years to avoid and get through from back stabbing.
Tips to regain oneself for back stab.
1.) Never start a fight – Before you start it, be ready for the consequences after throwing a punch, a slap or do the same thing that they did to you. You need first to see the situation wherein you’ll gain control of it.
2.) Ask what are the versions – the story keeps changing as it passes through others. Know the different versions and try to collaborate all of these. You will be able to see the true story and where it got wrong.
3.) Search for the source - Of course, it’s someone mad at you or someone who envy’s you. They will either deny it, avoid you or be plastic with you. Just go back to no. 1 and see to it that there’s no need for a fight. If you’ve got guts to talk about with him/her, good.Communication is still the best. But if it doesn’t work, don’t push for it. Let it go.
4.) Gossips/Rumors/Malicious words will die eventually-if you know the truth, and didn’t do anything wrong, then it will just pass-by. If it jeopardize your work or anything, be firm in what you do as long as it is right and it does not negate to any morals, company policy or rules. People saying or writing negative points about you are simply doing it to uplift themselves.If they can’t find any fault from you, then they can’t spread something. Hidden quotations are just mere ricochet of the bullets that tends to tick you off.
I’m not a saint when I write something here. People sometimes push me to be in a situation where I avoid much. I just let my hot steam in some better ways, so much to avoid confrontation and be productive. I hope you’ll do the same.
“Words may either build or break, it is just you who has the character to stand firm on what is right and what is wrong!”
